vulnerable to negative thinking and overthinking things when I’m hungry or when I’m close to my bedtime.
And so I have learned to stay away from thinking about anything important during that time.
And if such thoughts with a negative twist still pop up then I tell myself: No, no, we’re not going to think about this now.
Because I know that I will be back to thinking clearly and optimistically again if I just get some food or sleep.
I highly recommend finding your own situation(s) when you are more vulnerable to overthinking or pessimism. And to catch yourself and redirect your thoughts at such times.
2. Stop making your daily work busier and more complicated than it needs to be.
It’s very easy to get stuck in the same old rut at work or in school. To spend your hours there like you usually do and like most of the other people do too.
With a lot of time spent on busy work, procrastination and on being stressed on weekends or just before a deadline.
What to do instead:
Breathe and find what truly matters in the long run.
First, sit down and take a couple of deep breaths to relax and to focus your mind.
Then ask yourself: what is the most important thing I can do today?
Think about what would matter most in the long run when you ask yourself this question. Find just that one task.
Get started with that one task.
If you have trouble taking action and are slipping into procrastination then go smaller.
Tell yourself: I will work on this task for just 2 minutes.
Make getting started so easy on yourself that there is very little or no inner resistance in your mind.
Because if you just get started then it’s in my experience pretty easy to keep going for a while longer and to make a real dent in the task or even completing it.
3. Stop overcomplicating your relationships.
The fun, excitement and joy in a relationship of any kind can often be greatly reduced by simple and common thought mistakes.
Two such mistakes I’ve made too often in the past are to try to read minds and to go full in with creating drama.
What to do instead:
Trying to mindread usually winds up in creating nightmare scenarios in your own mind.
Because reading minds is pretty much impossible and so it is very easy to project your own worst fears onto what this person might be thinking.
So instead start cultivating a habit of being a bit more direct. Cultivate a habit of asking and more clearly communicating to better understand each other.
Question your own drama.
There can be a sort of temporary pleasure or excitement in creating drama and making something bigger or more negative than it is.
In the short run and even more so in the long run it tends to be quite destructive though.
So start questioning your own drama.
Will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks?
Ask it before you start creating and spreading drama to the people in your life.
Sure, the issue at hand may still have to be addressed but simplify it to what it truly is before you do that to avoid unnecessary conflicts, anger and hurt feelings.
And don’t forget to question other people’s drama too by asking yourself the same question.
Just because they want to create drama doesn’t mean that you have to get drawn into it.